KALIUM CARBONICUM – Closing eyes, amel.

Autor: © Maja Letić, All rights reserved

 

A woman, 67 years old, retired from her job, simple looking, pleasant character, asked for help around middle of January 2015. Asked what made her seek treatment, she answered:

Patinet: „I don’t know where to start. The biggest problem is that my husband abandoned me after 43 years of marriage, and left with another woman. He wants to return now, but I don’t want him to… He stabbed me in the back real hard and I feel worthless. I don’t have feelings for him anymore. There’s so little left of the woman I used to be“.

„My health isn’t good anymore. I suffer from hyperthension, angina pectoris, asthma, reuma, insomnia. My right arm is in pain since last summer. I was going to therapies, nothing helped. I must say that I’m a disciplined person, I go to follow ups orderly, I take my medications. I’m afraid of pneumonia, because I had it 2-3 times, by my mistake. Now I’m really taking good care of myself. I took 36 longacef shots  and I don’t plan to take anymore. My sister was killed during the war in Bosnia. Since than, I’ve been taking tranquilizers. I’m practically living on pills“.

„But I can take all of that, except that one thing. He hadn’t told me anything, I woke up in the morning and saw two bags, he said he was leaving. I can’t forgive him. I really can’t. Sometimes I sit and think at night, we lasted for so many years, we’re old, maybe we should be together again, but the moment I see him, I turn ice cold“.

„I’m 68 years old… I often ask myself why did we turn cold that way. He did cheat on me, I knew all of that, I never said anything, never accused him, I pretended I don’t see it. He decided to leave out of the blue. One morning I woke up and saw him standing next to the bed with two suitcases. He just said he was leaving, no explanation“.

„What hurts the most is the fact that he hadn’t done that earlier where he had nowhere to go. When his mother died, I thought that we will give her apartment to our son, so he could star living on his own. But he took her apartment and left. For months he used to say that he was going to the beach, while secretely he was preparing the apartment for himself. I’m not humilliated, I’m just offended that he did it in these years, when we need each other the most“.

„Even the neighbors tried to warn me, I thought he will stop. I demanded for us to go to the psychologist, but he accused me of being unfaithfull. He always checked where I was, when did i leave, when will I come back, who am I with. I had to justify every minute of my life. I was a textile worker, and for a long time I worked as a telephonist, and later in a human resurces department.  He always accused me of getting  promotions by sleeping with my bosses. It wasn’t true, I worked really hard for every promotion I got, and also, most of my bosses were women. And in all that time he was cheating even with my best friend. She killed herself later, by hanging, and despite all, I feel sorry for her“.

„The first year after he left I spent in tears. All day, every day. I felt like dying. Then I started feeling extremely well. I lost a huge burden, I didn’t have to explain myself to anyone, anymore. I felt relieved. If I had more money, I think I wouldn’t have any other problems now“.

„I’m a positive person, I don’t think of things in a negative way. Whatever feels bad, I believe it’s just temporary, it will pass. I never panic“.

„If I could just get over this trauma, everything would be all right. I’d love to never see him again, It would be so much easier. Our children offered to tell him not to come anymore, if I think that’s best. But I think they want to see him. I would never want to stand in the way of them not seeing their father“.

„Sometimes when he comes, I feel very bad. I hesitate over many things. I can’t even look at him, I go to the kitchen to do, or pretend to do something“.

When asked what’s the hardest thing for her, she answers:

„The hardest thing is when I bump into someone, and they ask me where my husband is… People open my wound even more by doing so… they support me, they’re always on my side, but it hurts when they try to open my eyes by telling me some new things. I pretended not to see what he was doing all these years. It hurts to see now what I didn’t want to see even back then. Why do they need to tell me now? He was there, he’s gone… I don’t want to hear, I don’t want to know… I tell those people: „Please don’t talk about him, I don’t want to know“.

„When a person dies, he’s gone, you know he’s not there anymore. But this man is alive, and he’s not here. Those feelings can’t be described to someone who never experienced them.  It hurts me even more because I never argued with him. I never told him anything. I pretended not to see what he was doing“.

Case analysis

 

 

When we look at the whole case, we can see one dominant thing. Patient is a person who doesn’t want to know unpleasant facts.  Alongside of many physical ailments, as the biggest problem she claims: „I can deal with all of that, except this punch“.

Punch was the moment her husband left her, two and a half years ago. It stresses out the matter of injustice, and the Ignatia remedy. At that moment, that would possibly be the best remedy for her, but a lot of time passed since then. What continues to hurt her after all this time? Patient gives the clear response: „It hurts when they try to open my eyes by telling me some new things. I pretended not to see what he was doing all these years. It hurts to see now what I didn’t want to see even back then. Why do they need to tell me now? He was there, he’s gone… I don’t want to hear, I don’t want to know… I tell those people: Please don’t talk about him, I don’t want to know“.

„I don’t want to know“ was the key of her sensitivity, and a rubric „CLOSING EYES, amel“ suits well to this situation. When we close our eyes, we can’t see, we can’t learn new things, we break the flow of visual information coming to our minds. In my opinion, It’s not that important weather the information comes in visual form, or in the form of sound, what matters is the need of person not to know unpleasant information although they are in „front of her eyes“, available. That was the rubric I didn’t want to give up, no matter what the repertorisation would show furthermore.

Rubric MIND – CLOSING EYES – amel. Consists of only two remedies: Kali-c and Zinc.

Who is the person in front of me?

It should be chosen between Kali-c and Zinc. To make a distinction between these two remedies, we should look into „Homeopathy and minerals“ book by Jan Scholten, and we would see that he stresses out two main topics:

• Carbonicum: searching for meaning, selfworth, dignity, shyness, workers and father (authority)

On the other hand, Zinc belongs to a series of  iron and has a specific mental picture:“ They have the idea that they must be very intellectual, and they have to  gain much on that field. Due to that, suppressing emotions is the regular cause of Zinc’s aliements“.

Is this the case of intellectual achivements and suppressing of emotions due to that? No.

She was perscribed the Kali-c 30C, split dose.

I. FOLLOW UP    

7.2.2015.

Yesterday I had a high blood pressure. My head hurted so much. Except that, I felt well. I feel positive. I don’t stress over anything anymore. I managed to relax. I put an end to the tension. I do my knitting, my embroidery… Yesterday my blood pressure was high, it always is when I feel stressed, but I didn’t feel stressed yesterday. It just was high.

I have some goals. I think about travelling to my sister in America and staying there for a while. For years now she invites me over, I got the 10 years visa, but never decided to go. I think I could go now.

I feel less hurt. For sure. I feel like nothing could hurt me anymore.

I see now that children wouldn’t like to see him. I thought they  want to remain in contact, but they didn’t. I suffered for nothing. After all, they’re not kids anymore. They both are over 40 years old.

Have I become selfish, I don’t know, but now I take care of my emotions much more. I feel more self worth than I did before. I would like to travel to Sarajevo, to my parents graves.

My arms aren’t in pain any more, and a work a lot.  For the first time I’m knitting a sweater with holes and buttons.

Insomnia passed. I sleep well.

Prescription: Sac-lac

II. FOLOW UP    

5.3.15.

I feel well about my ex husband. He came yesterday and we talked, but in a distance. I don’t feel stressed anymore. I talked with my friends about him and I can’t believe that I dealed with their story of him this well. I feel so much relieved. Now I can say to anyone: „Whoever doesn’t like me is free to leave. I love you with all my heart, but I also have my own little life to live, almost 70 years and I want to live nicely the time I have left. No stress“.

With every day, I feel new energy from the inside, some strong power, or maybe I got over the crisis.

Prescription: Sac- lac

III. FOLLOW UP                 

10.4.15.

When my ex husband comes over, I see him as some kind of acquaintance, a neighbor… No more hiding in the kitchen. I make him coffee like I used to, offer him some desert, and I’m actually pleasant and nice to him. He should know what he had lost. I’m done with him… It’s soo good he had left.

The patient solved some property relations, got a part of heritage from her parents, and adapted her apartment.

She called one more time in the autumn last year. She had a fever and asked for a remedy to prevent the pneumonia. We repeated the prescription of Kali-c 30c, split dose. From then, she didn’t call. I heard from her relatives that she’s doing fine. She never let her husband back.

 

„COPYRIGHTED“ SIMILLIMUM SOCIETY FOR SPREADING, PROMOTION AND IMPROVEMENT OF CLASSICAL HOMEOPATHY, BELGRADE, SERBIA – MAJA LETIĆ COPYRIGHTED 2016

 

Kommentieren ist momentan nicht möglich.